Can We Want What We Already Have?

 Brigitte Bardot & Michel Piccoli in "Contempt"

Brigitte Bardot & Michel Piccoli in "Contempt"

Why does good sex so often fade even for couples who continue to love each other as much as ever? 

Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?

Can we want what we already have? 

Why is the forbidden so erotic? What is it about transgression that makes desire so potent? 

Why does sex make babies & babies spell erotic disaster in couples? 

When you love, how does it feel? And when you desire, how is it different? 

I'm a huge fan of Esther Perel, whose work explores these questions. If you're interested, start by listening to her Ted talk HERE.