Last week I got to do couples therapy on Death Row at San Quentin State Prison.
Ocean was sentenced to death 25 years ago for a murder that occurred during a robbery at which he was not present (he was charged with "Intent to Kill"). It may sound crazy, but I've never seen Bianca more healthy and peaceful than she's been since dating Ocean for the last year. I saw the immense love between them and also felt the horrible pain and frustration of their situation.
We talked about the relationship between pleasure and pain: How to accept & manage the reality of pain, while trying to enjoy pleasure without clinging or getting attached to it. What better place for Buddhism than inside a 5 x 10 foot cage surrounded by (alleged) murderers!
They gave me permission to post this : )