There Are 4 People in Every Relationship

We’ve been talking about ways to access the subconscious (EMDR, psychedelics, meditation, dreams, nature, art), but Why?? 

Why is it important to go there? 

Life is demanding, keeping up with the To Do’s and the Joneses doesn’t leave much time.

The reason is simple: The Subconscious is Driving the Bus!

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“There are always 4 people in every relationship - our 2 conscious minds and our 2 unconscious minds. 

While we think we are calling most of the shots when it comes to choosing our relationships (friendships included), we are not. 

Our unconscious is. 

It is always attempting to heal old wounds, correct old mistakes, and repair historical hurts. 

Our unconscious is drawn to people who feel familiar, regardless of safety or true compatibility. 

Our job is to attempt to be aware of our old patterns, our unconscious pulls, so that we show up in our relationship as present and conscious as we can be.” 

(written by John Kim @theangrytherapist & Vanessa Bennet @vanessasbennett in their excellent book “It’s Not Me, It’s You”)

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Let’s bring in the other elephant: A.I. and the algorithms are directing what we’re exposed to and, consequently, our thought patterns and behaviors. 

Succumbing to it is inevitable (and there are positives to A.I.), but as much as possible, we want to maintain our free will!

Explore, examine, be honest with yourself about the forces at work in your psyche and the ways they’re affecting you. 

The more we can make the unconscious conscious, the more Powerful we are.

🎥: Before Sunrise