Polarity deals with the flow of energy between two opposite poles, like the positive and negative sides of a magnet. Polarity creates energy. When we take the principle of polarity to the sexual arena, we see the importance of Sexual Polarity, of the flow between masculine and feminine energies.
Your biological gender does not dictate whether you "should be" more masculine or more feminine. Everyone has both energies within them and they both are important to develop.
Often times, in our society we think of masculine as macho, controlling, and aggressive and of feminine as passive, weak, and undervalued. These characteristics are partly true, but they only describe the dark energies of each. The light masculine energies include the energies of protection, giving, support, and doing. Yes, GIVING, is not a feminine energy, it is a masculine energy! Light feminine energies include those of nurturing, receiving, and being.
Those in true feminine energy do not sacrifice themselves to take care of everyone else? They actually are the ones who receive care and are cherished?? How's that for a mind fuck? Read More
Ladies : No sex without commitment!
Because of the powerful charge of the sexually-stimulated hormone oxytocin, casual, non-committed sex can trigger a bonding in women that verges on physical addiction. A woman will bond to her man after one instance of good sex. She can stay bonded to him for a year or longer, from one sexual encounter. A man may feel bonded too, but he can easily go off and bond with other women as well. To alleviate this epidemic, try drawing a line and NOT having sex with men unless you have a commitment. This commitment is for continuity, longevity and monogamy. Read More
Why is it her? Why isn't it me? ... That woman in the grocery line with her little girl and her husband. It's not even envy, you're just wondering? Single people often ask themselves the question, "What's wrong with me?" The corollary question is, "What's right with her?"
Our culture encourages the idea that people searching for love have some fundamental deficiency that's preventing them from finding a partnership. So I ask you: Are your friends who are in relationships perfectly self-actualized human beings? Are they all their ideal body weight? Are they free of all their insecurities and neuroses? Then why do you think you should be? Read More
Love addicts focus almost completely on the person to whom they are addicted. At the beginning, this feels fantastic. Eventually, as Love Addicts try harder and harder to manipulate the other person to live up to the mental image they have created -someone who will care for and love them the way they long to be cared for and loved- they experience repeated disappointments, because no one can satisfy these insatiable desires.
Tragically, Love Addicts are usually drawn to Love Avoidants, who tend to avoid commitment and healthy intimacy because they believe that they will be drained and engulfed by it. Unconsciously, however, both the Love Addict and the Love Avoidant have the same two fears: intimacy and being left. Read on for a deeper explanation. Read More
If you are a person who wants to be in a relationship, have you thought about why? Actually, there are two very different reasons for wanting a relationship. The first is about what you want to get, and the second is about what you want to learn and share. Read More