Tools for Your Practice

Book/Shop, Erik Heywood, Oakland

Book/Shop, Erik Heywood, Oakland

Therapy works best when people take an interest in absorbing and synthesizing into their lives the ideas we explore in sessions. If you're looking for tools, here are some of my recommended resources, including books, podcasts, apps, videos, audio programs. I am always updating this list, so keep checking back. 

BOOKS (Many of these are available as audiobooks):



  • Your Brain on Love by Stan Tatkin - Better to listen to this one than to read it, I think. Tatkin has an easy-to-follow explanation for how our attachment patterns (island, wave, or anchor) play with those of our partners and how to best navigate our individual differences.

  • The Ecstasy of Letting Go by Judith Orloff - "Surrender allows us to let go of our compulsion to over-think, doubt our intention, and hold back from our complete experience of living," teaches Dr. Orloff. I really like the way she talks about how to tune into and listen to our intuition.


  • Insight Timer - Thousands of free meditations. My favorites are from Arielle Hecht. I love chakra meditations: "I AM Yoga Nidra - Journey through the Chakras" by Amrit Yoga, "Chakra Lights" by Estelle Godsman, "7 Color Rays Meditation for Balance" by Arielle Hecht

  • Mindfulness Daily - Set personal reminders to nudge yourself to be mindful throughout the day. The "Pause button" helps you take 15-second mindful pauses whenever you're stressed or catch yourself on autopilot.

  • Buddha's Brain - Buddhism meets neuroscience. Rick Hanson, whom I mentioned above, teaches practical exercises in how to shape your brain for greater happiness, love & wisdom.

  • New York Times - Whatever your news source of choice, it's important to stay connected to the events of the world and get out of your habitually self-absorbed mind.

  • Better - Helps you get paid back by your health insurance for your out-of-network therapy and medical bills.

  • Classpass - App that lets you sign up for classes at a variety of different exercise studios. Exercise always makes you feel better!

  • Spotify - Let yourself explore & experiment with different kinds of music that you don't normally listen to. This helps keep your brain active and engaged. When's the last time you sat and just listened to music? Or played a whole album from start to finish? Check out the "Discover Weekly" playlist, where some magical algorithm somehow nails your musical preferences and selects a new batch of wonderful songs for you to discover each week.

  • Notice I did not mention Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat. These apps have a tendency to create an unproductive compare-and-despair mentality in us And You Know It.


  • Oceanside Restorative Yoga - Slow stretches with a bolster/pillow to open your body. If you're wanting to attempt being with your emotions instead of avoiding them, this would be a great way to start.

  • The School of Life - From the author of the most widely read NYTimes article of 2016, "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person," the School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence through the help of culture. In a series of intelligent, immeasurably helpful videos, articles, and courses, they address such issues as how to find fulfilling work, how to master the art of relationships, how to understand one's past, and how to achieve calm.

  • Abraham Hicks - The ultimate source for The Law of Attraction. It's kinda crazy & out there, so if that stuff turns you off, this might not be your cup of tea. You can get a taste for The Law of Attraction in my earlier posts and see if it appeals to you. It's the kind of thing that once you hear about it, you'll start hearing about it more and more.

  • Esther Perel - My favorite sexuality & relationship teacher. She's an especially gifted speaker, so it's worth watching any video featuring her.

  • For deep sleep - Moby, Long Ambients: Calm. Sleep ; Tibetan Singing Bowls